o-- stop thinking of women as sluts or prudes/teases, catch yourself when looking for "sluts" and then demonizing them later. likewise, stop thinking of men as having to be tough, or to "get some," in order to be a "real man" - whatever that means.

o-- study women's studies. look at the way a rape-less society worked (Iroquois, etc.).

o-- try to find a movie that you like that doesn't have men as all the main characters, or a token woman in a boys' club, or where a woman doesn't have to undress or be the love/sex interest, or isn't crazy or weak. Imagine what TV shows or movies would be like if all the men were women and all the women, men.

o-- don't let things slide with your friends or co-workers when they make sexist comments or think of women solely in terms of their bodies or how much they will "put out."

o-- don't interrupt women when they speak. you may miss something important.

o-- don't think of women politicians in terms of how they look or how much sex they get or don't get.

o-- don't assume that feminists hate men. don't be so damned defensive when a woman tries to open a discussion about "women's issues." Issues concerning sexism are not something that can be relegated to a month or a holiday or an issue of a newspaper.

o-- boycott corporations that use sexist advertising (there are a lot!)or at least become aware of sexism in commercials.

o-- try to stop objectifying/sexualizing women's bodies and all of their parts. (this is hard because it's so ingrained in all of us).

o-- join/start a group that is fighting to end sexism. choose this group wisely.

o-- don't be afraid to call yourself a feminist. we are all still sexist (and racist and homophobic) - even if we are the oppressed. society gets internalized. just work on it! If you think your friends will ridicule you for saying that you are a feminist, then maybe you should think about getting new friends (or educating them, at least).

o-- don't fucking listen to sexist music anymore. it's just not cool. If you're not sure if the music is sexist or think that maybe it is "just a joke," try imagining that all the references to gender are references to race, and see if the song would be racist, or try imagining the gender roles reversed in the lyrics.

o-- realize that if you are a man, a while person, a rich person or a heterosexual, you have privilege in this society. realize that all of your opinions are based on the life you have lived with this privilege.

o-- say you're sorry when you realize that you've been acting sexist. be sensitive to a woman when she tells you that she is afraid or hurt or fucking enraged because of all the sexism in the world. please don't tell her that she's just looking for it, that she's acting like the victim. A woman knows when she is the object of hate or ridicule because of her sex/gender. She's not stupid. Try to assume the best of her.

o-- a lot of times we look for any way to probe that there is nothing wrong with our own actions/words/thoughts or the actions/words of those around us. It's easier than thinking that the people we love may be against us. There comes a point when you may realize that many well-meaning people are sexist and ignorant of the pain they inflict. There comes a point when you can't just ignore it or rationalize it away. At those times, do whatever you can do, but try to stay sane. The revolution is now, if you want it.

o-- Love much. Fear Not.